For high achieving professional women who are ready for secure love in 2026

Date with emotional safety, clarity and secure feminine energy without repeating old patterns

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We don’t consciously attract partners.
Attraction is shaped by subconscious attachment patterns and nervous system familiarity long before logic or intention set in.

When those patterns are rooted in fear, avoidance, or self-protection, it’s possible to meet a genuinely good partner and still feel disconnected, overwhelmed, or compelled to pull away, not because something is wrong, but because safety hasn’t been established internally.

Thats why attracting love from a secure attachment is the most effective way to create a healthy, committed relationship.

While most dating advice focuses on strategy: what to say, when to text, how to act without addressing the attachment patterns driving those behaviors.

And most matchmaking focuses on introductions, without the emotional preparation required to sustain real intimacy.

My work bridges that gap.

By helping women reprogram their subconscious attachment patterns and regulate their nervous system they are equipped to attract and keep secure love by learning to:

  • Let go of negative core beliefs about themselves

  • Be an emotionally available partner

  • Stay present when connection deepens

  • Move through dating with secure, feminine energy

  • Stop repeating relationship cycles rooted in distance or self-reliance

Secure attachment is about feeling safe enough to remain open, even through conflict and to choose commitment consciously.

When internal security is in place, attraction changes.
Dating becomes clearer.
And secure love becomes sustainable.

My Approach to Attracting Secure Love

Who is Deidra ?

I am an Integrated Attachment Theory relationship coach based in San Diego, California and mom of three.

What began as a personal pursuit to understand my own anxious and avoidant attachment patterns and create secure love in my life naturally evolved into my work.

Through my background in science and deep study of Integrated Attachment Theory, subconscious reprogramming, and feminine embodiment.

I now help high-achieving women rewire their attachment patterns, create emotional safety, and build secure, committed relationships without confusion, overthinking, or emotional avoidance.

What Clients are Saying

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What Clients are Saying *

"If you are a looking for a coach who is not afraid to tell you like it is and invest in helping you IDENTIFY your blindspots, GET OUT OF CYCLES and manifest your dream relationship then Deidra is for you"

Nyachia K

"I didn’t know where to go in my relationship I was stuck on options, Deidra showed me the importance of boundaries and that they are healthy, my partner and I are now working together to build a stronger happier relationship. Just talk to her you never know what will come up, she saw so many blind spots in me that I didn’t see."

Ryan B

"It just felt so good to be attracting a completely new kind of man as I have changed over this past month!! As a result I am really starting to have fun with online dating!!" Thank you for your training program"

Gillian V

FAQ

  • Click the Apply for Coaching button and complete a short application.
    If it feels aligned, you’ll be invited to schedule a discovery call where we’ll look at your situation and see whether working together makes sense.

  • Investment varies depending on the level of support thats right for you. Pricing is discussed after you apply and we’ve had a chance to look at your specific situation on the clarity call.

  • This work is for women who are ready to:

    • Date with a Secure Attachment

    • Take responsibility for their relationship patterns

    • Heal attachment wounds, not just learn dating strategies

    • Create emotional safety within themselves and in relationships

    • Invest time, energy, and care into real change